So I’ve recently come out of something that could only be
described as the “it’s complicated” relationship statuses you use to see on
Facebook in yesteryear.
One way I have learned to solve this problem is by looking your very best ninety percent of the time just in case you run into them and you can show that are indeed doing fine without them (even though you know you are far from it just yet).
Even though our situation wasn't black and white, and if I'm completely honest I am still coming to terms with it being over with this guy. It has really made me wonder recently what are the break-up rules? Or even if there are any so-called rules. Or even if there is a successful way to get over someone?
It is universally accepted that going through a break-up is hard
and at times long-winded and at times draining (if you are anything like me
anyways). It is always difficult dealing with a break-up but what I
have always found harder is working out how to cope with the end of a
relationship. Whilst my situation was complicated and not a tradition
boyfriend/girlfriend one it still feels like I'm having to deal with it like
was one.
When you break up with someone whether is it a mutual choice or
they decide to end things what is and isn’t acceptable during the initial
stages?
Do you choose to go through different routes to avoid them (not
like I’ve ever done that or anything)? Do you purposely try to not go to the
same places you use to go to with them out of sheer dread that you will run
into them when you aren’t ready? Or even worst when you aren’t looking your
very best. Why is it always when you are trying to avoid someone you seem to
run into them? Must be the universe’s way of having a little laugh at your
expense.
I guess what I am trying to say is I don’t necessarily
think there are rules that make any break up easier but there are some things
you can do to make the process easier.
Some of the tips that work for me are:
1.
Writing about it. This way you can be open and honest about how you feel
about it and indirectly dealing with it at the same time.
2. Talk
to some friends who understand where you are coming from.
3.
Remember it didn’t work for a reason. Whether you can see it now or it
takes you a little longer to realise this.
4. Try
and look at the silver lining. Because you know there is always a silver
lining.
5. Look
your best ninety percent of the time just in case!
If you forget everything else I’ve mentioned in this post remember
those five points.
Love,
Gemma Ama x
Great post - everyone hates a break up!
ReplyDeleteThanks Melissa :) - I know and they never seem to get any easier *rolls eyes*
DeleteI love that you have opened up this conversation. I feel as though it is always so easy to keep the emotions that come along with breaking up to yourself, or within your friendship group. At this point in our evolution I think that we should all be a little more open with subjects such as these so that we can all grow. The look your best tip is my mantra!
ReplyDeleteThanks Lillian and yeah I think it something a lot of people try to stay away from nowadays. Exactly, everyone goes through at some stage so I don't see why we can't be more open about it. Lol it is true though! My heart might be hurting a little right now but doesn't mean my appearances should suffer too! x
DeleteI agree that opening up about it definitely helps. It sometimes feels so much easier to keep it to yourself but I think expressing it in some way or form speeds up the process.
ReplyDeleteGlad you got the perspective I was coming from. It really does help talking to the right people about it to help you get over it x
DeleteNice Post. Definitely like the 5 tips.
ReplyDeleteAnd yes hunny, looking your best :) lol xx